We learn the maxim as children: There will always be people greater and lesser than you. But some of us hear only, “You are never good enough.” We focus on those we perceive as greater, and assume we are (always) lesser. You may recognize that relentless, nagging voice. It’s like a parrot that has been […]
There are plenty of unforeseen hurdles that can put a hold on life as you know it. But there is nothing like the fear of being not good enough to stop it in its tracks indefinitely. “Time and tide wait for no man.” This centuries-old insight may seem cliché in its obviousness. But consider the […]
Have you ever been in a relationship that took feeling not good enough to a whole new level? And have you ever wondered if it was because you felt not good enough that you got into the relationship in the first place? We have all known someone like this. At the very least we have […]
You want it. Someone else has it. So, you can’t have it. Which only makes you want it more. You need to learn how to deal with jealousy and insecurity before you make a bad choice and try to get it. The feeling is familiar to all of us. At the very least we can […]
If we could only read minds, we would notice that insecurity is everywhere. It’s a trendy commodity, apparently. Learning how to get over insecurity, however, takes more than a misery-loves-company search for empathizers. It’s important to understand how insecurity comes into play in the first place, and how it becomes so ingrained in the psyche. […]
You hope no one notices that you are dealing with insecurity at your new job. After all, this is a big step up, and you’re convinced you pulled one over on the people who hired you. How could they not see through to all your inadequacies? Surely it’s only a matter of time before they […]
It can be easy to forget how to love yourself after a breakup, even if you normally have a strong sense of self. Romantic relationships open with a flood of reminders of all the qualities that make you lovable and desirable. A breakup — especially one you didn’t initiate — can call that all into […]
It happens to all of us. A relationship ends, and the world stops and kicks us off. Or so it feels. And the low self-esteem after a breakup only serves to prolong the agony. How long does the bottom-dwelling last? How long do you have to feel this lousy about yourself? Isn’t it bad enough […]
Self-esteem, quite simply, is how you feel about yourself. It’s the subjective self-evaluation of your own worth. Low self-esteem culls all those self-perceptions that are negative and presents them as a diminished sense of self. The person with low self-esteem lacks confidence and often feels unlovable, awkward and incompetent. S/he also tends to be hypersensitive, […]
Your relationship didn’t have the makings of “happily ever after.” You were miserable. But now you’re not only depressed and stressed over a breakup…you’re obsessed. You know the breakup was for the best. It was only a matter of time. But why can’t you shake it? You would expect to be sad, angry, even depressed […]